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Allison Holker talks about the tragic death of her husband
May 3, 2023
In a new interview Allison Holker talked about coping with the loss of her husband, Chief Stephen “tWitch”., who committed suicide. The TV presenter shared a rare insight into their beautiful life together and how her late husband wanted to be everyone’s ‘Superman’.
To honor her memory, Holker revealed that she started the Move with Kindness Foundation to support mental health initiatives and promote positivity. She shares that she has focused on carrying on her legacy and making their home a sanctuary for their three children.
Read on to learn more.
“Our love was so real and loud”
In an interview People magazine, Allison Holker Boss fondly recalled the simple but priceless moments she shared with her late husband, Stephen “tWitch” Boss. During the emotional conversation, Holker recalled that one of their favorite after-work activities was cooking dinner together in the kitchen. “Stephen always had my back when I passed him,” she said.
Then, during the meal, the family of five engaged in “random conversations” with “so many laughs.”
“Our love was so real and so loud. We’ve always told people that our house is like a choreographed dance,” added the dancer and TV personality.
According to Allison Holker, the late husband wanted to be everyone’s “superman and protector.”
Opening up in her first interview since the tragic loss of her husband, who committed suicide on December 13 at the age of 40, Holker said his death shocked and deeply affected her, stating: “Nobody had any idea she was short. He didn’t want people to know. The mum-of-three also revealed that despite being her partner, she had no idea Boss was struggling because he keeps his pain to himself and wants to be everyone’s ‘Superman and protector’.
It has been a difficult few months for the widow as she tries to understand the pain her husband had to go through alone, while still clinging to the “beautiful life” they built together. “It was very difficult because I don’t understand what happened at that moment (he died),” she shared.
Although she still struggles with a complex range of emotions, Holker shared that she is motivated to carry on her husband’s legacy and honor the beautiful man he was. “Stephen brought so much joy to this world and deserves to be remembered for the beautiful man he was,” she said.
Allison Holker is starting a foundation in honor of her late husband
In memory of her late husband, Holker founded the Move with Kindness Foundation to raise awareness and funding for mental health initiatives. Through the foundation, she hopes to inspire people to reach out to others during difficult times and “trust that people will see you as a light even in your darkest moments.”
In her interview, Holker revealed that she and her late husband had always strived to spread hope and positivity, but after his tragic death, she was confused about her “new purpose” as “love and joy” had always been the family’s goal. He turned to his friend Andy Grammer for advice, who reassured him, saying, “This is still your goal. Only now it looks a little different—and a little deeper.”
Since Boss’s death, Holker revealed that several men have reached out to her, sharing their struggles with mental health and how much they kept to themselves. Responding to the heartfelt messages, she said: “I found it to hold a lot. I realized at first, but then I realized that I want people to feel safe talking to me and to open up and understand that we need to support each other in these moments.”
‘Together we can cope’: Allison Holker on her new family dynamic
In chatting with him PeopleHolker also talked about how she struggled with the overwhelming pain and responsibility of motherhood after her husband’s death. “You’re trying to help yourself, the kids, friends and family, and it’s taken a toll,” she revealed. “Literally, getting up in the morning was getting harder and harder.”
However, he found solace in the cold at night, which is now part of his daily practice. “It helped a lot mentally and spiritually,” she said.
Since losing the family’s backbone, Holker shared that she and her children have developed a new relationship that requires honest communication and vulnerability. “I try to teach them—and myself—that just because you’re angry or sad doesn’t mean you’re a bad person,” she says. “We’re going to get through this together, and that takes trust and being really vulnerable.”
Together, they continue to find solace in their home, which remains a shrine to Boss’s memory. Holker shared that her late husband’s belongings were not touched as they were reminders of her immense love for her family. “He was such a family man and he has so much love in this house,” she said.